“It is not the gift but the thought that counts” ~ Henry van Dyke
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Are first serious relationships as scary as everyone makes them out to be?
Last year I officially switched my relationship status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”. Mentally that is. I’m not into the whole Facebook Status PDA but that’s for another post.
In this post I want to discuss some tips on getting gifts for your significant other for the first time.
I’ve been in a relationship for just over a year and 5 months. It’s only now as we’re approaching our second Christmas together has it started to feel real and serious. Is that normal? You’d think at 24 years old I’d already know these things, but nope. I’m a relationship newbie. I remember panicking a little last year because it was our first Christmas and we’d only been together a few months. I had no idea what was Christmas appropriate in a relationship. Not to mention I had his parents to think about. If you’re like me then hopefully this post will help you out a little.
Being in a relationship is an exciting thing. You have someone who knows you deeper and sees you differently than your friends or family do. Someone to share and build your dreams with. Also someone to bring you food when you’re feeling lazy or PMSing. Relationships are great.
But being in one can also be daunting too. Especially a new one. You worry about everything. Not being good enough, saying the wrong things or doing the wrong thing. With your bags of infatuation and happiness, you wonder whether you’re moving too fast, too slow or not moving at all. It’s a lot of worrying. Some of it is unnecessary but it happens and you only realise it in retrospect.
Buying gifts is no different. Be it your first Christmas, first Valentine’s day or your first anniversary. What do you get your new significant other that’s undeniably romantic, but not too much or too little?
Being a newbie myself I thought I’d share some of the things I consider while buying gifts for my significant other:
Budget – Can I afford it? It’s all well and good to splurge on the people you care about but never at the expense of what you can afford. Have you budgeted for your family, friends as well as his family and friends’ Christmas gifts? Remember, that you are setting the standard for years to come. It’s ok to start nice and simple then work your way up. He or she will appreciate it if it came genuinely from the heart. If you got it wrong, there’s always next year.
Tact – Have I asked the right questions? It’s a new relationship so you’re not expected to know everything your significant other likes. Having regular conversations with your significant other to find out what they like and don’t like can help you find the perfect gift. Don’t wait till a week before Valentine’s day. Have those conversations way in advance and ask in a tactful way. “How comes you never wear a watch?” or “You smell good, what perfume is that?”. These questions can lead to so many answers and gift ideas. Before you know it you have your very own gift cheat sheet.
Thought – Does he need it? Getting someone something they want is one thing but getting them what they need is something else. Wants change more often than needs. If you get them what they need you are guaranteed they will make use of it. Last Christmas I bought my boyfriend some beard grooming products and aftershave. He wanted to grow his beard (#BeardGang) but couldn’t be bothered to find out what products would be good to use. So, I decided to create a beard pamper package for him. It truly is the little things that count in the long run. Let’s them know you listen to their needs.
And that’s it, that’s all I have so far. Think it’s good enough for now.
Whether you’re in a new relationship or a well-seasoned one, exchanging gifts is an important part of any relationship. It’s the selfless act of giving something to someone you love because you love them. Because you know them. Actions speak louder than words and if it’s from the heart it will be easy. Or at least easier.
Below are some interesting post I found on gift giving for your significant other:
Did you find any of these tips helpful? How do you decide what to buy for your significant other? How much is too much (or too little) when it comes to gifts?
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Till next time.
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