5 Ways to Turn Your Bedroom into an Oasis

“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” ~ Wayne W. Dyer

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Welcome to Lyd on Life

Feng shui is a Chinese philosophical system of harmonizing yourself with the surrounding environment. Now I’m no feng shui export (not even close) nor do I know a lot about this philosophical system. However, I strongly believe that harmonizing yourself with your surrounding is very important.

Sometimes it starts with something as simple as re-arranging your bedroom. Your bedroom is your own little haven where you find rest, peace and relaxation. Where you prepares to take on the world every day. Re-arranging the place you spend your most vulnerable time can help you find harmony and clarity in the parts of your life.

At 25 years old, I thought I would have my own place by now to fung shui the hell out of. But no, I’m not even close. I’m still living at home in the same bedroom I’ve been in since I was 5 years old. Same blue and white coloured walls, same old stained carpet and the same curtains my mum made when we moved here. Trying to save as much as I can to reach my goal of owning my own place leaves very little time and money to re-decorate. Right now, I can only afford to re-arrange. And that’s ok.

I don’t plan on being in this bedroom for too long but for the time being, I plan to make an Oasis out of it. If you’re like me, here are my 5 tips on turning your bedroom into a beautiful and relaxing sanctuary when you have limited options.

De-clutter

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Whether it’s unwanted clothes, shoes, bags, body products or storage units; get rid of everything that has no real reason for being there. Haven’t used it for the last 3 months? Get rid of it. Is your storage just a space to keep things you don’t use? Get rid of it. Do you need that coat stand? Throw it away. Ensure that everything in your room has a justified and effective purpose for being there. De-cluttering is the most therapeutic process you can go through I feel. If done with the intention of harmonising yourself with the things around you, you’ll be surprised at how much space you’ll create for important things.

Create space

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Struggling to get from bed to door without hitting something? Or do you find yourself knocking things over as you move around the room? Yes it could just be the size or design of your room. Or maybe you have too many things in the way. That laundry basket, does it need to be in your room? Could you put it somewhere outside your room? Those products on your desk? Could you use a rotating storage stand instead of having them all over your desk? Perhaps some wall shelves are needed to hold that stereo or TV instead of floor units? Can you fit your shoes in your wardrobe instead of a shoe rack? If something in your room could go somewhere else to create more space, move it. I believe the more space you have the clearer you can think. You allow your room to breathe and in turn allow yourself to breath.

Open storage system

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I don’t know about you but there’s something about having an open storage system that I like. The constant reminder of the clothes you have and the state of your clothes helps me avoid clutter. I can’t stuff my clutter behind my wardrobe doors if I don’t have any. Everything must be hung and folded neatly. Plus, your personal style can act like an artistic and decorative piece to your room. Now, I’m not saying go out and buy a whole new open storage system. You could simply remove the doors off your wardrobe or only remove one. I did. My wardrobe doors had mirrors so I used one of the doors as a stand-alone full length mirror in the corner of my room and the other as a mirror for the hall way. Open storage could also mean adding shelves to empty walls or buying a door hanger for your coats instead of stuffing them in your wardrobe.

Candles

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Scented candles are amazing. I wasn’t always a fan of candles as I just associated them with fire hazards. And they are, if used incorrectly. When used in the bedroom, it can really set the mood. Whether you are relaxing on your own or with someone special, a scented candle can create the right atmosphere to feel relaxed and in tuned with your surroundings. Ever wondered why they light candles during an aromatherapy massage or treatment? High quality essential oils can have a positive impact on our bodies and provide us with a sense of relaxation before you go to sleep. Our sense of smell is also connected to memory. Having a scent that reminds you of a happy or peaceful time can boost your mood. If you like the smell of bread in the morning, buy a bread scented candle (if that exists).

Bed positioning

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The fung shui experts say bed positioning is important for healthy chi in the bedroom. I don’t know much about chi but I do believe that the positioning of your bed can help improve your mood, especially in the morning. What is your favourite part of your room? Is it your window? Is it your wardrobe? Is it something on your wall? Why not face your bed in the direction of something you’d like to see every time you wake up? For me it’s my window. My neighbours have a lovely tree in their back garden with pink flowers all over it. I sleep with my curtain open as I like the feel of the sun in the morning and waking up to see the pink flowers without leaving my bed is a bonus. Sounds cheesy but it makes my getting up in the morning in this bedroom just that little bit tolerable nicer. Of course, this will depend on how your room is structured but find something you would like to see the moment you open your eyes in the morning.

And that’s it.

Re-arranging the things around you can help you think clearer, see clearer and feel different about certain situations you might be in. These few tips have helped me find peace in the space I’m in as I prepare to get to the space I so long to be in. It will come one day and when it does I’ll be ready for it.

Final thoughts…

Bring your reality as close to your dream as possible so your dream doesn’t just seem like a dream anymore. There’s a lot I’d like to do to my surroundings but for now, these tips and my Pinterest board will have to do.

Your Turn…

Did you like this post? What did you find helpful? Do you have any tips of your own?

Get in touch, tweet me @lydonlifeblog or share your questions, experiences and tips with everybody in the comments.

Till next time.

Love,
Lydia x | https://lydonlife.wordpress.com

CONFESSION | I’m Afraid to be Seen Without Make-up

“Enjoy your body. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own ” ~ Kurt Vonnegut

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Welcome to Lyd on Life

It’s Saturday afternoon and I’m sat in bed with a thick layer of Sudo cream all over my forehead. Panic!

For the past week or so I started to develop some itching and dryness on my forehead. I didn’t think anything of it but once the skin on my forehead started to wrinkle and peel a little I got worried. I have no idea why but it just happened. I was so busy with work that I had no time to book an appointment with the GP and a part of me thought it would go away after a while. But I didn’t. It just got worse and covering it with make-up didn’t help.

My forehead is the oiliest part of my face. The make-up would slide right off throughout the day or get caught in the wrinkles and dry patches. It was horrible.

As much as I wanted to hide away in my room till my skin got better, I had work to do and life wasn’t going to wait on my forehead. So, I had to decide. Either keep walking around with patchy wrinkly make-up on my forehead or stop wearing make-up till my forehead got better. To some, this isn’t a big deal but for someone who’s been wearing make-up since they were 13, it’s a big deal. I couldn’t even go to the corner shop without eye-brows, concealer and foundation at least.

Like many people out there, when puberty hit, the beauty store or their sisters make-up was their place of refuge. Where you could make that dark mark from the spot you popped last night disappear or not look so bad. Unfortunately, they don’t tell you that it only gets worse the more make-up you use. Or maybe they did, I just didn’t get the memo. 13 years later I’m still trying to cover up old and new acne marks, uneven and dull skin. Isn’t puberty meant to be over already?

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Dealing with problematic skins means you are constantly battling with your self-confidence. You wonder whether other people notice your imperfections the way you do. Sometimes they don’t but that doesn’t matter to you. Why? Because you notice them. It’s hard not to when you are so used to seeing your skin flawless when you have make-up. Once you wipe it off, all you notice are the things you tried to hide.

Unfortunately for me, I can’t hide this wrinkly dry forehead of mine. And the more primer, foundation and setting powder I put, the worse it looked. So I decided to stop before it’s too late. My skin was telling me it needed a break and my self-confidence was telling me it needed a boost. So I decided to listen to it.

I’ve spent years trying to love my skin until I was forced to. Till I caught myself preferring the marked up, uneven, dull skin I had to the one I could have if the itching and wrinkling persisted. I felt like I was developing eczema and would hate to think I spent all those years resenting my skin as if it was the worst it could get.

You never know what you have until it’s at risk of being taken away. So I decided to embrace what I have and learn to love it. Even if I wish it could be better. My skin may not be perfect but its mine and I should enjoy it. I shouldn’t be afraid to show it to the world.

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One of my 2017 goals is to love the skin I’m in. Perhaps the universe was helping me take the first step to achieving that goal. By forcing me to bare my skin in a way I’ve never done before. To wear it with pride and appreciate it as it is. Scars and all.

I’m hoping not only will this help me figure out what is going on with my forehead but also help me feel more confident and comfortable going out without make-up.

I am beautiful with or without make-up. I need to believe it, not just say it. It’s going to take some time to reach that point of self belief and acceptance but at least I’m making small steps toward my goal. Actions speak louder than words.

Your turn…

How often do you go without make-up? Do you feel comfortable without it? How do you deal with some of your insecurities? What did it take for you to get to that place of accepting your insecurities?

Get in touch, tweet me @lydonlifeblog or share your experiences and tips with everybody in the comments.

Till next time.

Love,
Lydia x | https://lydonlife.wordpress.com

NEW YEARS | My 2017 Goals And Resolutions

May this year be the year you stop wishing and start doing ~ Lydia x

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Welcome to Lyd on Life

It’s new years morning. I’m still a little drunk and feeling real brave. Let’s do this!

But before I go in on my 2017 goals, let me start off by saying sorry for the lengthiness of this post. Like I said I was hungover, bloated and suffering from liquor ambition. 01 Jan 2017. Who wouldn’t be excited for the new year? With so many things to be thankful for in 2016 and even more things to be hopeful for in 2017, I had a little bit of a goal overflow.

I’ll be honest I didn’t do much to bring in the new year. We drank, played card games, ate junk food and talked about the future. Guess you could say I had time to do this post.

Below are my 2017 goals as set by my slightly hungover self. Here we go…

Organise my life:

I picked up this new hobby called blogging last year yet found myself struggling to find time to work on it. Working full time plus making time for other things proved to be harder than I thought. I spent the last half of 2016 saying “I have to make a schedule for myself” and I never did. Better late than never I say.

Here’s a rough idea of my 2017 schedule…

Monday – Friday

  • Spend a maximum of 1 hour getting ready for work
  • Working hours are 9am – 5pm
  • Make notes for a blog post whilst travelling to and from work
  • Spend 2 hours a day writing, editing or promoting a blog post
  • Spend 1 hour replying to emails, comments or tweets
  • Spend 15 minutes practising the piano

Saturday & Sunday

  • Spend 2 hours doing house work
  • Spend 1 hour practising the piano
  • Church
  • Spend 2 hours with me, myself and I
  • Spend time with friends and Family time

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Focus more on my Blog:

By the end of the year I want to…

  • Increase traffic using 1 social media
  • Master and utilise 1 social media platform
  • Have 1000 followers by the end of 2017

Develop as a person Woman:

By the end of the year I want to…

  • Saving – Set aside 40% of all income into a savings account.
  • Cooking – Learn to cook at least 2 different Kenyan dishes.
  • Travelling– Go to at least 2 other countries.
  • Exercising – Get a flat stomach by the end of the year.
  • Piano – Confidently play the piano at church during the service
  • Work – Get a healthy pay rise and job promotion
  • Hair – Grow my hair to bra strap length, think and healthy
  • Beauty – Feel confident going out with or without make-up
  • Faith – Strengthen my relationship with God
  • Patience – Leave everything to God and trust his timing

And that’s it, that’s all I have so far. Think it’s good enough for now, right?

Whether I reach these goals or not, life happens. I believe that having focus on what happens to your life helps you get closer to the life you want. Setting goals gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation. So here’s to 2017 and if you’ve stuck around till the end of the post, here’s to us! Bring on 2017!

Your turn…

Have you actively identified your goals for 2017? What are some of the things you hope to achieve by this time 2018

Get in touch, tweet me @lydonlifeblog or share your experiences and tips with everybody in the comments.

Till next time.

Love,
Lydia x | https://lydonlife.wordpress.com

NEW BLOGGER | 4 Ways to Finding The Blog-Life Balance

Life is a balance between what we can control and what we cannot. I am learning to live between effort and surrender. ~ Danielle Orner

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Welcome to Lyd on Life

Blogging is easy…

Said none of the 133,000,000 (and counting) bloggers out there. Ever!

Balancing blogging with your day job and your life can be quite difficult. Especially for a new blogger. You’re already diving your 24 hours between sleeping, working, family, friends, boyfriend, a bit of exercise, a hobby or two, church, personal growth…Did I forget anything?  Now you want to add blogging to it.

I thought I could till I actually started blogging.

I have huge hopes for my blog. For it to grow, provide insight for other people and be a therapeutic outlet for me. Somewhere I can share my thoughts, plans, struggles and success in life. But how do you find time to do all that whilst still living in the real world? I ask myself that every time I say I’m going to write a post but never getting around to doing so. It’s not as easy as I thought.

Having big dream for your blog means you need the time, resources and motivation for it. I decided to do some research in the blogosphere to find out ways I could get my blog-life balance together.

Here’s a few I found:

Learn from other people – As a new blogger, we’re simply winging it. At least I am. I know nothing about blogging strategies, creating great articles or choosing catchy headlines. All I know is I have something worth sharing. Finding people who can help share our thoughts and ideas can motivate and provide direction for when things start to feel lost or frustrating. www.meetup.com is a great place to start. Here, you can connect with people of similar interest, network at events and build relationships that can guide you to finding your balance.

Make it simple – We all want quality graphics and it’s tempting to want to get all the gadgets needed for the perfect picture. From cameras and lighting to photo-editing software and perfect backgrounds. This all takes time and money. If you have it, great! If not, here are a few less expensive or time consuming tools you can use. www.stocksnap.io/ and www.pexels.com are the two website I use for stunning free stock images. If they need some editing, I use www.freeonlinephotoeditor.com/ or apps such as Instagram or VSCO. A few minutes of fiddling around and I have amazing high quality pictures. They will do for now.

Stay motivated – Ever since I started blogging, I’m constantly looking for confirmation that I’m doing it right. When I don’t find it (from comments, likes, views etc.), I feel a little disheartened. Is there any point in going on? Then I remember why I started. I started to share my experience and the many things that I’m learning in my day-to-day life. Whatever your reason for blogging is, remember that if your blog posts are helping even one person, its creation has been worth your time. That desire to blog isn’t there for nothing. Keep going.

Schedule your blog-life – The saying goes, there’s a time for everything. That can be a little misleading as a new blogger. You feel the need to blog every day and promote yourself on every social media possible to draw in traffic. I’ve tried and failed. It can’t be done. At least not while I’m still finding my feet. However, the saying is true, there is a time for everything. I use my journey to and from work to write down my thoughts on the day or a particular topic. Then I give myself 2 hours every day to either write, edit, post or promote a blog post. Blogging shouldn’t feel like a chore. It should be something enjoyable like an escape from the chores of life. Start small then work your way up.

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And that’s it. That’s all I have so far. And I think it’s good enough for now.

So what’s my plan? I plan to post once a week, putting these 4 tips into practice till I find my blog-life balance. Will these tips work? Who knows, I’m new to this remember. Only one way to find out. Wish me luck!

I hope this post gave you some ideas and encouraged you to keep blogging!

Your Turn…

Did you find any of these tips helpful? What distracts you from blogging the most? How do you manage your blog and everyday life?

Get in touch, tweet me @lydonlifeblog or share your experiences and tips with everybody in the comments.

Till next time.

Love,
Lydia x | https://lydonlife.wordpress.com